Don’t sweat the small stuff 

If there would be a lesson in life, this trip really forces me to face the fact that life is too precious to take the good things in life for granted.  Nearly everyone dwells in the past at some point. That’s okay, but some people do it more often and are more likely to get…

The ‘authentic’ experience

A lot of people tend to look for an authentic trip. I have to admit, I am one of those. I write off entire countries or cities for being “too touristy”. Nowadays with the greatly increased tourism it’s getting harder and harder to find areas that are still authentic. Over the years I’ve been to…

Dragging Main

Growing up as a teen in the 80’s in Winfield, Kansas was a huge difference compared to being a teenager in Holland. The biggest contradiction was going out on Friday’s. Back in the late ’80’s Dutch teens were allowed to go to a bars and drink, but weren’t allowed to drive till they turned 18. While…

I’ve been proven wrong big time!!! 

To start with I’ve been communicating a lot with the lady I am having a home swap with. She is so incredibly nice. I think she one of the most hospitable people I’ve ever met. I have to admit that she’s original not from Chicago but for a small town in Kansas.  The last couple…

A hell of a job 

My parents divorced when I was 12 years old. My mom told me that one of the reasons they got divorced was my dad being gay.  My dad was never open about his sexuality till he introduced me to the man he was about to marry. Not the fact him being gay, but the way…

Standoffish

For most of my friends it’s hard to believe but I used to be quite shy. When I had to buy a bread I rather went to the supermarket and grab one, than to ask for a bread at a bakery. I remember one day, instead of putting down my money on the counter and run…

Loneliness 

There’s a taboo on talking about our bowel movement, as I wrote in my previous blog ‘shit happens’. Sadly there’s also a taboo on loneliness. To reveal loneliness seems like an admission of failure. Admitting being lonely is like admitting being a loser.  Everyone goes through times of loneliness at least once in their life,…