Porn

For years I never understood what my grandma meant by ‘keep your hands above the blanket’ when she tugged me in. My parents both grew up in a devout Catholic family. Unlike their parents who were very puritanical, my parents were extremely liberale. I must have been at about age 10 when my mom gave…

#MeToo (Dutch version)

Met de campagne hashtag MeToo is de discussie rondom seksuele intimidatie, misbruik en grensoverschrijdend gedrag losgebarsten. In de wereld van televisie, film en modellenwerk is er een beerput open gegaan en komen er steeds meer verhalen naar buiten. Al snel kreeg ik bij de beschuldigingen aan het adres van Job Gosschalk en Gijs van Dam…

Time to reflect

Who would show up at your funeral and what would they say about you? Generally we don’t have any influence on when we die, but we can take charge of our own life.  Sometimes we need to just stop and think about who we are and be aware of what’s around us. Take a moment…

Childless-not-by-choice II

About a year ago I wrote my first blog on childless-not-by-choice. It’s my most widely read blog.  It’s been more than 6 years ago when I made the decision to stop the fertility treatment. It was the hardest decision I ever had to make. Oftentimes, I was unintentionally offended by hurtful remarks like ‘Get a…

Small talk 

The authentic resident of Amsterdam, Holland, is really outgoing, talkative and upfront.  Unfortunately lot of the former residents moved away over the years. The newer population is a lot less extrovert in their first informal contact. The previous habitants are more like the New Yorkers today. It looks like the New Yorker is still in…

“Where there’s blame, there’s a claim.” 

Until about 15 years ago, many people would sue over futility’s. The defendant would file an insurance claim and the insurance company would give a small compensation to the plaintiff. This way the plaintiff would go away and the defendant wouldn’t have to take the time and trouble to deal with the trouble of the…

Ancestry test 

I never questioned my heritage. Both of my parents are Dutch and as I recall so are my grandparents and great grandparents.  Remarkably knowing your heritage was important to a great deal of my high school friends back home. It was a hot topic to many. The fact that a lot of them were kids…